Last week a part of the community was shaken by the sudden and tragic death of Burlington native Emily Balog who was killed in an automobile accident while working for the Peace Corps in Paraguay. It’s a noble undertaking that came to a shocking end. It rattled many in our area. Emily Balog was a Williams High grad and the daughter of Steve and Susan Balog. Steve Balog is a former district attorney for Alamance County and a retired superior court judge.
We pursued the story in our usual way after hearing about it. After all, we don’t have routine access to police reports in foreign nations. With help from the Peace Corps, we were able to cobble together information for our readers without disturbing the family.
Once the story was posted online, I took the additional step of making it accessible on Facebook. We have done so on the Times-News Facebook page for the past couple of years (feel free to go there and like us). People there can comment on those stories and we encourage them to do so. As soon as the story about the death of Emily Balog was posted, though, one of our regular commenters made a remark that I didn’t feel appropriate for this particular situation. It wasn’t libelous, obscene or even truly hateful compared to a lot of what I see. It was simply in poor taste and not the correct thing to have posted at that particular time. The remark had more to do with whether people should help in foreign countries.
I deleted it rather quickly. He posted it again. I deleted it once more. From there, he stopped — which I appreciated.
One of our online readers and Times-News family members, however, saw the post before I could remove it and became incensed. Antonia Bowden Taylor is a Williams alum who now teaches English at St. Mary of the Woods College in Terre Haute, Ind. She is the daughter of our graphics designer Linda Bowden.
Antonia immediately fired off a letter to the editor. I told her I would print it here because the comments she references never appeared in our print product. Here’s what she has to say.
On Sunday night, November 26, I started to notice some chatter on Facebook. It didn’t take me long to realize that Emily Balog, someone I’d once been acquaintances with, had passed away. I noticed all of the touching posts and photographs from her friends and was struck by the fact that someone who truly made an impact on those around her has been lost. I didn’t know Emily personally, but in high school her brother Alan and I were in the same group of friends as we both served in the Williams High School Marching Band. I am generally saddened for the loss of such an accomplished young woman and for the pain that I know the Balog family and Emily’s friends are now suffering.
This evening, I was once again saddened while reading the Times-News’ article about the tragedy. It was nice, however, to read Rosalee Papandrea’s heart-felt and touching story about Emily. I like that it focused not on Emily’s death but on her life and the happiness she found in helping others.
What upset me almost as much as this tragic accident, though, is the nasty comment posted below the article. The statement did not attack Emily personally, but it was completely unnecessary, had nothing to do with the tragedy itself, and was meant to preach the poster’s political agenda. The comment has since been deleted. I will not sink to the level of the author who posted it by repeating what he said. In a time like this—when a woman’s life has been cut short—there is no excuse for this type of behavior. I personally cannot imagine commenting on anything but the impact Emily had on friends and family or the good she’d done and accomplishments she’d made during her too-short life.
As a professor of writing, I teach my students about the impact of our words. I emphasize the importance of considering audience and knowing what types of arguments are appropriate and when to make them. The death of a young woman is not the time or place to post such unnecessary personal political agenda — especially when the audience is probably going to include her friends and family.
I know that Internet trolls have been a problem within the Times-News website for quite some time. I have a special relationship with the paper. Along with my own general browsing of posted articles and accompanying comments, I have first-hand knowledge of the types of comments that never make it to, or are deleted from, the website and Facebook page. I not only worked as a copy editor and page designer from 2004-2005, but my mother, Linda Bowden, has worked for the paper for over 21 years and is the News Room Graphics Editor. She’s often talked to me about the hate-filled rants that filled the comments section of the website and hoped that once the new Facebook-linked commenting was implemented that some of these comments would stop. She was mostly right. There seem to be far fewer nasty posts than there used to be, but every once in a while, someone manages to slip something in. Even if that something is only up for nine minutes (yes, I counted; I was going to call the newsroom myself if it wasn’t deleted soon), that’s nine minutes too long. That’s nine minutes that extra and unnecessary pain could be inflicted upon the friends and family of Emily — all of whom are dealing with enough.
Clearly, you posters have the right to say whatever you’d like online (just as the Times-News administrators have the right to delete posts they deem unacceptable).
My question is this: to those of you who post these nasty messages, what do you get out of them? Does it make you feel better to write something spiteful in an anonymous or semi-anonymous arena? If so, why? Most of you lament the way the world is and how negative things are these days, and you sure don’t hesitate to place the blame for the crumbling of society on others. On everyone, that is, but yourselves. Instead of adding to the hate and negativity, why not do something to help out? Constructive conversations come out of understanding and acknowledgement of the other side. Not sweeping generalizations and vitriolic, hate-filled rants posted on articles that are meant to shed light on a tragedy and honor the life of aBurlington native.
My heart goes out to Mr. and Mrs. Balog, Alan, and Emily’s friends and family. I am truly sorry for your loss.
Those of you who write these kinds of posts should be ashamed of yourselves, and because of you, for the first time since moving away fromBurlingtonseven years ago, I am ashamed to be a native of Alamance County.
Antonia Bowden Taylor
Instructor of English and Communication
Saint Mary-of-the-Woods College
Terre Haute,Indiana
MY TAKE: Well stated. There’s very little I could add to what Antonia is saying. I wish our posters would or could take into account the people they might harm in a situation like this one. There is a time and a place for everything — and equally inappropriate times and places.
In this regard, many seem truly tone deaf or uncaring. I’m unsure which might be worse.
The emailbag: Pertinent question; Loving Rip and a ban on commenters
September 4th, 2012, 9:28 am by madisontaylorThe end of summer signaled a typical slowdown in email traffic from readers. Still had a few in August. Here goes.
I got this one from a Mebane reader who first called to question me about the front page placement of our first-day Republican Convention story last week. We had a great discussion over the telephone about stories, newspapers and the need for national news in a community. Here’s what he wrote me afterward.
Ken Born
MY TAKE: The newspaper edition Mr. Born is talking about was published on Aug. 29, which coincided with a centerpiece package on our front page remembering the late Williams High student and football quarterback Harry Cohen, whose stunning death was a year ago that date. Because it was the first convention day we decided to put the story on A1 down the left hand side of the page — removing our normal rail of news blurbs, weather, etc. that usually goes there. So the GOP Convention was on the front page and above the fold.
Mr. Born also questioned a small promo placed in the text of the story letting readers know a related story about the Obama campaign was inside the A section. The latter is pretty standard for a lot of stories we publish. In our business we call them refers or teasers. I’m not sure I think it detracts from the overall story.
I told Mr. Born we would give the GOP coverage bigger play throughout the week, which was our plan all along. In fact, we had it set for big advance play the previous day but Hurricane Isaac scotched those plans.
This week our Democratic Convention coverage will probably just a tad larger because it’s in North Carolina — just a couple of hours away in Charlotte. And because we’re coming off a three-day holiday weekend, there is simply less going on and fewer people at work. We’re short a photographer this week which will also change how things are presented on our front page.
I also told Mr. Born that as the news business changes, we are much more dedicated to coverage of local news, features and events. The national news is available from so many other sources who can devote more newsprint or airtime.
We are trying to use our wire services to bulk up our regional coverage of the Triad and Triangle to augment our local news digest. Hopefully it’ll give readers what they need.
Loving Rip Haywire
So I love it when someone writes in to salute Rip and his creator. Personally, I’m a Rip Haywire fan.
Here’s the note from Jeff Tudor of Graham.
My emails to the editor are usually about more serious subjects, but I have to say how much I enjoy reading Rip Haywire in my Times-News. I was recommending it to a friend in Greensboro, which prompted me to look online for info about the strip. I was surprised to read that the Times-News actually publishes the strip. Keep up the good work!
MY TAKE: I had to correct Jeff on the publication of the strip. While Dan lives in Graham, we don’t publish it here. It’s handled by a syndicated service. But Dan’s a great guy and we relish the opportunity to help out his career.
Phooey to online commenters
I got this note from Bob about our online commenting system — especially a handful of commenters.
Madison: I know all about the First Amendment and everyone having the right to voice their own opinion. But have you ever thought about banning 5-6 people from the comments section of the Letters To The Editor because they do nothing but name call and conduct a pissing contest everyday???
MY TAKE: From a personal standpoint, I would love to. In fact, I stopped reading the online comments a long time ago for exactly the reason Bob points out. I only go there when readers specifically ask me to or to see what someone who works for the Times-News might be saying online.
I had hoped that a year ago when we switched to the Facebook commenting system things might change. As most recall, that system strongly encourages people to put a name with their posts instead of a pseudonym. It has ended most anonymous commenting, but not all.
It’s difficult in this system to ban a user without also having them removed from Facebook so we tread carefully in that area. And we can’t delete comments but can make them so others who are not Facebook friends of the commenter in question can’t see them.
It’s sad that discourse today can’t be conducted in a civil manner or one free of snarky comments.
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